Being Single Sucks! Today is Day 2 of The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge. Did you miss Day 1? You can check it out here.
Some Days Being Single Sucks!
There are some days when I appreciate being single, and there are other days where it just plain sucks. When I say it sucks… I mean I am completely annoyed and over being single. Everyone has those days (during the period of being single), but they are not the end of the world. Sometimes one may find themselves in awkward situations, wishing they had someone that they could better spend their time with. Other times, one has to miss certain events (such as double dates) because they have no one special that they are seeing. Either way, being single should not become an obsession. This post is not to give singles advice (I am currently figuring things out on my own). Today, I am simply going to tell you about times that I feel being single is really not fun.
Misery…Really Wants Company!
We are all familiar with the quote, “misery loves company”. Yeah…well this is how I feel sometimes about being single. Maybe others feel the exact same way. (This is a judgement-free zone.) In this case, I am not wishing that my friends in relationships become single like me. No! Their happiness is my happiness, and if their relationship makes them happy, then I am all for it. This statement, in this context, simply means that sometimes singles enjoy being in the company of other singles.
For example, I have a friend Cydnee (hey Cyd!), and we sometimes bond over our being single, talk about thinking about relationships, etc. We both have the same friend, Taylor (hey Tay!), who is in a relationship. While Taylor makes great company, it’s a little different than the single company that Cydnee and I bring to the equation. When Taylor is texting or talking on the phone with her boyfriend, Cydnee and I are left to entertain each other for a couple of minutes. Then, sometimes I want single’s company outside of my closest friends, and that is where dating comes into play.
Third Wheel? Yeah… Being Single Sucks!
I have seen and experienced both sides of the third wheel. In this case, the focus will be placed on being the third wheel. Sometimes it seems fine to hang out with a friend and their significant other. Other times, it is a constant reminder that you do not have one. Going to dinner can be awkward, riding in the car can be even worse. Everyone has to find the balance of giving each other enough attention and prevent the third wheel from feeling bad about being the extra wheel.
Personally, I have been the third wheel so much with some of my other friends that I am beyond the awkward phase. I am able to fade into the background and enjoy the company of my iPhone or I simply remove myself from the equation. Why make anyone suffer any more than necessary? It is not too hard to make Three’s Company work, right? Right? It depends on who is answering the question. More times than not, it is irritating and/or sad always being the third wheel. The couple should not feel like they are a part of a love triangle all of the time.
To the third wheel, sometimes you’re just going to have to miss an event, and maybe hang out with your friend individually. Taken friend, try to be considerate and understand that your significant other does not have to be present EVERY time you hang out with your friends. Sometimes it is okay to get some friend bonding time. (Can you tell that I have plenty of experience? Well, I do.)
I Know Being Single Sucks, But It’s Simply Not Time to Be Taken…
Love is a beautiful thing. There is nothing more contagious than a sincere smile and happiness. However, when I look around me and see tons of couples… I think to myself… what the hell is wrong with me? I’d like to think that I am fun. That has nothing to do with my single-ness. It is important not to rush into relationships because it seems to be the trend around you. Why? It’ll only lead to misery in the end. Just wait until it’s the right time. Use being single as a time to learn what you want out of life. Go on those dates! Take a vacation. Finish school. Do whatever it is that allows you to grow and improve yourself.
Let’s face it… your crush just may not be into you. Maybe they are just not into you RIGHT NOW. Sometimes people have to prepare themselves mentally. They may be afraid of rejection. You cannot read someone else’s mind…so be patient. Or, if you know that neither of you is interested, do not force a relationship. It will never end well if both of you are in two totally different chapters.
While being single sucks, enjoy the time. There will be moments that makes you want to scream. If you need to, do so. When you are finished, get yourself together and work on you. Do you have any days or moments that reminds you that being single sucks? Let me know in the comments below… Next up… Day 3! It can be found here.0