It can be difficult to handle stress. Let’s be honest! Some people thrive on stress, while others crumble under the pressure. Which stress shoe do you fit? Either way… I’m here to help you deal with the stress like a boss.
Handle Stress by Facing it Head-On
Sometimes it can be difficult to face stress directly. It can be easy to TRY to ignore the problem, but that never helps. To alleviate stress, dealing with it up front can save trouble further down the road. Believe me… I am a person who is not afraid of a little confrontation (if provoked), but even sometimes I don’t feel like it is worth it. Those are usually the times that it is most worth it.
Additional problems tend to accrue and build when we choose to ignore the problems that we are facing. As they continue to build, it begins to send us down a dark path. Why go down that path if we can prevent it? If you could save yourself a headache and journey, why go into the rabbit hole? Unless the rabbit hole, stress, and aggravation is your thing, then I would advise walking past it.
I cannot honestly say that I walk past the rabbit hole every time. Sometimes I find myself ignoring the problem until I reach my breaking point. By then, the Tasmanian Devil steps in and tears everything up. I find myself taking my anger and frustration out on the wrong people. Or, I may not approach the situation appropriately. Either way, it’s not a good look. So, I am learning to deal with the problem up front, so that everyone will know the expectations moving forward, and I end up more relaxed in the end.
Handle Stress by Stepping Back
This is a contradiction to my last point. I’m aware. However, there is a reason I have added this to the list. Confrontation, in the beginning, is not always the best policy. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to take a step back and allow the situation to work itself out. For this particular situation, I mean with handling people, or even on the job.
For example, I am a pure perfectionist. On top of being a perfectionist, I MUST have order, and everything must fit into my spectrum of perfection. If there is one ounce of disorder, my anxiety kicks into overdrive, and I obsess over all of the things that could (but probably won’t) go wrong. When I feel myself getting anxious, I take a step back. I walk away from the situation, or I find myself separating myself from the people bringing on the problem.
If there is a project that needs to be done at work, I always find myself willing to take on new things and trying to bridge the gap. What about the other people? I can’t do everything, especially if my pay is not matching my work. I’ve had to learn (through trial and error), and I’m still learning, how to step back, assess the situation, let things play out, then come back to it.
Handle Stress by Changing Your Scenery
I love any reason to get away. Getting away does not always mean I’m going on a trip to another area. My definition of getting away is allowing myself to go to another place (whether mentally or physically). For example, reading and writing is my therapy. I can, with minimal focus and a good storyline, get lost in a good book. (Suspense/Thriller is usually my first choice, followed by various other genres.) My notebook is filled with pages of new books to read of various genres.
The point being made is, it is important to step outside of what is normal sometimes. Change your desk/office around every now and then. Take a vacation (or staycation) every once in a while. Try a new restaurant or boutique to shop at. There is so much world to explore…so take the time to explore it. Once you do, I promise you’ll be able to come back and change the world (if you put your mind to it).
Handle Stress by Sleeping & Resting
My family can always tell when I’m under the most pressure. I sleep a lot. Some people turn to food. Others turn to a cocktail… or five. I turn to sleeping and seclusion. (I’m introverted anyway, so it doesn’t help when I’m falling into my anxious/ depressed/ stressed state. It’s my introversion multiplied by two). I’ll go from sleeping 6-8 hours per 24 hours to 12 hours per 24 hours. That is half of the day gone, and it’s too much sleep. Honestly, when I sleep this much, I wake up even more tired.
However, when you allow yourself to get a full night of sleep, or spend a day doing absolutely nothing, a lot of things can change. Your perception of a particular situation may be completely different versus being in the heat of the moment. The worst thing to do is to make permanent decisions on temporary feelings. Every decision you make is permanent. Not only are decisions permanent, but they have consequences (whether positive or negative). So, get more sleep, and make rational decisions.
Handle Stress by Learning to Say No
Why is saying “no” so difficult? Honestly, I don’t know. I try to pride myself on being able to say no. “Who gets happy about saying no?” you may ask. I do! I’ve often taken on too many projects, stretched myself too thin, or allow others to be carefree because I could not say no. I used to have a hard time telling people no, even when it was for the best.
When I see others who find it hard to say no, I have no problem stepping in and saying it for them. Or… I force them to think about all of the best solutions and allow them to make the decision on their own. (I have always felt myself a voice for those who are too afraid to speak up for themselves.) It’s hard to see people overwhelm themselves because they worry what the other person, or people, might think of them. As much as we all like to believe that we do not need acceptance from others… we do. We crave it, and it drives us.
Teach people to miss your presence. Let people experience picking up the slack for themselves when there seems to be some kind of problem. Learn how to take you out of the equation. Handle your stress like a boss. What are your favorite tips/ways to handle stress? Let me know in the comments below. Also, if you haven’t already, you should check out: my post about validation.0